Lesson to Self #9: Be Respectful

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Yesterday I had the distinct privilege of speaking to a roomful of enthusiastic high school students. Prior to my first word, they did what high school kids naturally do in a cool setting: play ping pong, chat, and finish off their Starbucks drinks. But once called to attention, they quickly took their seats and settled in.
I had roughly 30 minutes to story tell, urging them to courageously embrace doing hard things. I did not see any student who failed to listen intently, some leaning forward in their seats as if to capture each word more effectively. And when I was finished and the principal asked some questions of me, she opened the floor to the students. Several quickly raised a hand to offer their perspective on the topic before the entire group gathered around to interact with me up close and personal. This group could have easily become the poster children of respectful behavior.
I contrast that experience with another encounter, this time all high school seniors at another school. Very few lent their attention to me as I stood in front of them. Instead, they consistently held conversations with neighbors and refused to engage when asked. They were disruptive throughout. Every attempt to draw them in failed miserably. I left feeling the brunt of their blatant disrespect.


So I ask myself: How respectful am I? Do I give my undivided attention to my husband when he decides to describe the work he has been doing on his beloved Corvettes or motorcycles when I am engaged in watching a favorite HGTV show? Do I work hard at being attentive when listening to a sermon? Am I gracious with my speech when referring to another’s perspective with whom I heartily disagree?
Respect is a social skill that society seems to be losing in droves. Just listen to the harsh rhetoric and personal insults that are omnipresent on social media outlets. But before I cast stones, I must start with me, myself, and I, ensuring that my level of respect is beyond reproach. I can agree to disagree but my words and conduct need to be filled with grace, love, faith, and purity everyday and always.
"Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." (1 Timothy 4:12 ESV)
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